Something that's always bothered me was the relationship status. First, there was the awkwardness of the "It's complicated." I mean, when in actuality, would one ever want to a) use this relationship status or b) admit to the public and to some people they haven't seen since they were in elementary school that they are having relationship issues. I think a much better relationship status option would be "I'm sorta seeing..." or "dating around, but mostly with...", etc. The option for swinging is the only reason I can think of that this relationship status is useful.
Also, as of recently, people started getting divorces. People that are my age, or younger. It's scary.
As a wide-eyed optimist and newly engaged, it scares me that my generation did not learn from our parents' mistakes and try really hard to combat those mistakes. I know that I, personally, always wanted to live with my person if I thought it was getting to that serious point in a relationship. I know lots of other people that don't approve of that, but in my opinion, it is in invaluable. I also think it's important to talk about the future, you goals, your beliefs, your morals, your standards, your hopes, your dreams. To meet people's families. To get to know each other's friend groups. To visit a hometown. All these things are crucial. But, I guess I've learned, suddenly, that I was more careful and more scared of divorce than I thought. Divorce scares me. I physically get nervous and a headache creeps up onto my temples just thinking about it. I've seen it rip apart families of friends that I love. But, ironically, I've also seen it bring together families that were never quite whole because of the relationship tension.
But, I think Facebook is making divorces worse. What's worse than being married on Facebook. Everyone knowing you're married. And then, suddenly, on everyone that you hold dear's mini-feed, they see "_____ went from being 'married' to 'single.'" I mean, come on Facebook. Why don't we make this transition from "Married" to "Single" a bit more hurtful? It seems like they could code a distinction to make it not show up, automatically, on people's feeds.
I think what makes this even worse, is there's nothing you can say via Facebook that can comfort a person in this time of need. So, what do you guys think? Should I petition Facebook?
2 comments:
Yeah, I've seen that happen too, and it's really sad. It hurts to see your friends go through stuff like that and not be able to say anything. And yes, we are definitely some of the oldest facebookers out there. We had nothing else to do at that dang castle! We were all glued to our computers. :)
Remember the days when you had to have a college e-mail to get a facebook? Back in, what? 03? I miss those days. The rampant overuse of facebook by people such as, say, at homes moms who update 20 times a day about potty training, is alarming. I must say, I had never noticed this particular flaw in the facebook world until you pointed it out. And now I have been awakened to the truth: it is awful. I think you should petition facebook.
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